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How to Get Started:  Meditation – A Beginner’s Guide

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Meditation – A Beginner’s Guide

What is meditation? 

Meditation spans a variety of different cultures and experiences. There is the light, day-dream type of experience to a very full and deep religious enlightenment. I’m not going to discuss the different types of meditation here but focus on how a Beginner can get started, experiment and find enjoyment in the process. Once you get going, it will become quickly apparent what you will enjoy and you can then seek further information as needed. 

 

There are many reasons to meditate.  People meditate to bring down their stress levels; to make time in the day to focus just on themselves; to sort out a problem or issue that is bugging them; to connect with Spirit; to send or receive healing; to foster religious enlightenment.  All of these are valid purposes for meditation and each person meditates according to their own preferences and beliefs.  So, unless you are learning a particular form of meditation, please don’t let people tell you that you are not doing it properly if you just don’t happen to do it like they do – it is all personal.  

 

For many people reading this, the purpose of meditation will be within a spiritual context ie primarily to enable a connection to be made with Spirit in order to develop our psychic skills or healing abilities.  From within a meditative state we can communicate with, and so learn from, our inner-selves, our Guides, Angels or Ascended Masters – or else our Totem animals and Intergalatic friends. 

 

What are the benefits of meditating regularly?

In the long term, the benefits of meditation are many:

*        you have a sense of calmness and peacefulness

*        you are happier and can cope with life’s bumps more easily - people and situations don’t bug you so much!

*        you are confident and feel that you are “on the right track” with your life or can clearly see ways to make it better

*        you will also have an established dialogue with Spirit friends and Self which makes all healing work and psychic activity easier

 

How to get started

There are 4 things to think about here and these are discussed below:  

 

1.  Relaxation

Here are some things to try if you have difficulties relaxing spontaneously – pick and try the one you’re drawn to in the first instance. All of these are designed to focus your mind elsewhere so that you can release your everyday concerns in readiness to commence the meditation. 

·         Do some relaxation exercises. Tense and relax all your muscles in turn starting with your toes, your feet, your legs etc. Gradually work up your body. As you release the contractions feel the stress flow away.

·         Concentrate on your breath.  Feel it moving in and out of your body.  Follow the breath as it goes in through your nose, hold it and exhale through your mouth.  Hold the breath gently for a few counts each time. Again, feel the stress release with the exhale. 

·         Go for a walk or do some gentle stretching exercises such as a gentle yoga session.

·         Develop a short ritual – like lighting a candle or some incense – or saying a short prayer or affirmation.  Over time, the very process of going through a ritual often triggers the body and mind into a more relaxed state if you do it often enough.

·         Play some relaxing music.

·         If you have been attuned to Reiki (at any level) try the Hatso Ho Rei exercise – then when you are in Gassho proceed with your chosen mediation.

 

2.  Comfort

It is crucial that you are comfortable before you start.  If you aren’t, your attention will start to wonder within minutes of starting. My personal preference is a comfortable chair – one that keeps my back fairly straight and my feet on the ground.  It is important to many of us to feel the floor under our feet during meditation or else you can become ungrounded and rather spacey, even slightly nauseous or head-achey. Other people though prefer sitting on the floor or even laying in bed.  I know some practitioners who lie on their own treatment couches.  The key is to be comfortable – so whatever works for you.  

 

I also suggest ensuring you are warm enough. Often temperatures fall with the arrival of Spirit so having a blanket on top of your normal clothes is a good idea.  If you are doing a Healing meditation, often your temperature will increase so having something that you can push off easily without losing the flow is nice.  

 

3.  Timing

There are two aspects to timing – how long to meditate for and what time of day is best. 

 

When starting off it is best to keep the meditations short – 5 minutes is a long time to sit in one place trying to visualise a mountain stream when despite your best efforts you can only see a black space!  So if 5 minutes is too long – try 2 minutes at the beginning.  Working up to 20 or 30 minutes is ideal.  Some people go longer – but the average person with family commitments and the time constraints that go along with that, may find more difficult. 

 

The time of day to meditate is extremely subjective.  It’s lovely to get up early on a summer’s morning and sit outside as the sun comes up – but realistically an extra hour in bed is very hard to resist.  If you can only find the time when the kids have gone to bed or are at school – go for it – just make sure you are not too tired or you might fall asleep.  

 

However, I would suggest trying different times of day occasionally also.  There are specific meditations developed for sunup, sunset, night-time etc not to mention different times of the year, full moon or inside or outside.  By experimenting you might find something you really enjoy. 

 

4.  Maintaining Focus - Using Visualisation

Once you’ve chosen your time of day, got comfortable, and relaxed it’s time to start the meditation itself. Visualisation is probably the easiest method of meditation.  It means to simply form a picture in your mind of a person or object or scene or story.  These pictures can be stationery or else you can use your imagination to make them move either spontaneously or else follow the instructions of another person/teacher (ie as in a Guided meditation).  You can find Guided visualisations on CD at local book stores or New Age shops; in books that you can then record yourself and playback; or at a meditation group where the teacher speaks the meditation aloud for the benefit of the group.

 

The more practiced you get at visualising, the easier it will become to trigger the meditation state.  As you practice, the visualisation will become more spontaneous and spiritual in tone.  By that, I mean, the visualisations will take you with them rather than you control them.  

 

For example, there is a common “Meet Your Guide” meditation which involves visualising a stage which has a door onto it.  At the right point, your Guide is supposed to walk onto the stage through that door.  In my experience this doesn’t often happen.  Either no-one apparently turns up – or else they come on from the opposite direction entirely or else (as in my case) my Guide turned up on a bouncy white horse that charged down the middle of the audience and jumped up on the stage neighing impressively – talk about a big entrance! It’s at this point – when the meditation takes a leap of its own that you know you’ve got it.  It doesn’t have to be as dramatic as my experience.  It could be that you start to sense your visualisations for the first time – can smell the grass, feel the water or the breeze on your face etc – they start to become more “real” and move out of your imagination and into the control of those who guide you ie Spirit, Guides, Higher self. 

 

However, a “Meet Your Guide” meditation is very hard at first for those with little or no meditation experience.  It puts undue pressure on you before you even start as your expectations to “see” something is high. My best advice is to start simple – and gradually build your focus over time.   

 

How do you know when you’ve got it? And what to do if you haven’t.

You know you’re starting to get there when you experience a spontaneity to the images you see during visualisations; have an immediate sense of revitalisation when finished; and are generally more relaxed during your day-to-day activities. Well done! 

 

Conversely if you experience the following - stress, frustration, a feeling that you are wasting time, agitation, even anger, shortness of breath, and fidgeting – you probably haven’t quite got it yet. Frequently this means you are trying to do too much too soon.  Go back to basics and read through the earlier sections of this article again.

 

Occasionally, an inability to get started with meditation indicates some other underlying cause. If this is physical discomfort, a trip to the doctor may be in order, just to get it checked out.  If it is a stress-related or emotional response, consider finding a counsellor or healer who may be able to help you work through these issues first. Clear these up and then try again. 

 

Trouble-shooting

Meditation Fears

Generally the more active an imagination you have, the easier it is to meditate – that said, there is a point when learning, when it is difficult to identify what you receive during the meditation as either enlightenment or imagination. There is also a phenomena which seems to occur for some people when they are trying to relax but are very stressed – their imagination presents them with nightmarish images.  Others, fear that when they have a moment of spontaneous visualisation (a picture, feeling or word appears to them which they have not consciously thought of) that some other entity is communicating with them.  The fear brings them back to earth with a bump and they are not keen to try again. 

 

Two things to say here.  Firstly, quite often the “entity” communicating with you is none other than your subconscious or Higher Self, the same as your dreams at night or when you have flashes of intuition during the daytime. This is not to be feared but welcomed. You have just begun an extremely useful partnership!  Secondly, if you are meditating for psychic and/or healing benefit, you are likely, with practice, to start to receive communication from other sources. This also needs to be welcomed and not feared, for these are your teachers and helpers. 

 

One way of minimizing your fear is to ensure that you have gone through your grounding and protection routines before you start; or if you are comfortable, simply asking for that protection from your Spirit Guides or Angels. Then you know that the messages you receive will only be from welcomed sources. See An A-Z of Grounding and Protection for more information.

 

Problems visualising? Keep it simple.

I have a few suggestions:

*        Start with a basic chakra meditation – there is one on this site – but there are lots of variations so you could do a search on Yahoo or look in some books.  Then simplify it.  By that I mean instead of visualising the base chakra as a  beautiful lotus bloom opening petal by petal and swirling, spreading its colour.  Imagine any red flower you can – if you get to see it fantastic, if you get to see just the colour fantastic also.  If you can’t see the petals open or the swirling movement – not to worry – you might do next time.  It’s all practice. 

*        If after a few attempts you can’t see the coloured flowers – start with something more simple still.  Think of an everyday object that just happens to be red – a tomato maybe, or a red apple or even a pillar box! (if you’re from the  UK).  These objects are more familiar and should be easier to visualise.  Start there – see those objects, try to get a  strong sense of their colour.  That’s a great starting point.  Then go back to the flowers, or crystals or whatever it is you’re trying to capture in your medis.  See if you can see them any clearer now that you are used to visualising another more familiar object.

*        Also, related to the one above, think of the object throughout the day – not as a meditation but just a quick preparation.  If you have the object physically in front of you – have a quick look.  What shade of red is it?  Is it shiny?  What scent does it have?  What shape is it?  Etc etc.   If you do this frequently, when you sit down to try the meditation again, the object will be so familiar to you that it will be easy to see.

 

Still Can’t do it?  – Try this

If you are still having difficulties – consider some of the following suggestions.  But first, go back to basics, and check you are not trying for too long, you are comfortable, not too tired, are relaxed and aren’t worried about the process. 

*        Use a meditation tape/CD with earphones if you have them. A lot of people swear by this method as it cuts out a lot of the outside noise allowing more concentration. Alternatively, record your own meditation on tape or cd from a book or make one up from inside your head. Play some music in the background as you record it – and you will have your own personalised tape.

*        If you are following a guided meditation or one that you have read – don’t worry if you forget something or end up going all over the place.  It doesn’t matter.  If you fight to try and get back on track the real world will come rushing back in and you will feel cheated!  Go with the flow. 

*        If you like a couple of different meditations but only want to try one – mix and match – put a new twist on an old beginning – see how you get on – you might just like your  combination. 

*        I don’t personally meditate in bed – I can’t as I immediately fall asleep.  However, some people swear by this method and don’t think it’s a big deal to fall asleep – they complete the meditation in their dreams or else it simply fades away.  They still benefit though and anything is better than nothing. If you are going to try this though, I suggest checking out An A-Z of Grounding and Protection  first.

*        Meditate while you walk or daydream over a cup of coffee. It is a myth that you have to be sitting cross legged on the floor to meditate effectively. You can clear you mind anywhere and bring your focus to appreciating the world around you – or go back to your childhood and create a fantasy world of escapism as you nurse a cup of coffee. You may not get the depth of meditation you crave but it is something and next time you try a little more formally you may get a bit further. 

*        My best meditations often happen spontaneously in the bath – try it!  Relaxation in the bath is almost mandatory – close your eyes – imagine a beautiful landscape – and there you are…. Just make sure you have someone timing you or set an alarm – in case you fall asleep.

*        Try meditating with a crystal. The energies in the crystal may help you focus more easily.  Sit with the crystal in your hand, lay it on your lap or third eye or even stare at it until your eyes feel tired. Just one word of warning, some crystals help meditation, some can hinder by being too strong especially for a beginner. If you’re going to try this consult a book or crystal practitioner first or else use rose quartz – a lovely gentle energy. 

*        Try a colour meditation. Find an object of one colour or paint a piece of card – prop it up against a plain background and stare. Relax into the colour, how does it make you feel, pretend you are that colour – does it make you want to sit still or run about, contemplate serious issues or play around like a child, laugh or cry? This is a great way to get to know colour but may also just be the trigger you need to kick off a meditation experience.

*        If you have one near you, try walking a labyrinth. The path through the maze is supposed to facilitate a gentle meditative state. Don’t worry these are not mazes where the idea is to get you lost! The labyrinths follow ancient designs which give you one route in and one route out - you simply follow the path.

 

Finally, my advice is simple. Relax, Relax, Relax! Where relaxation goes, meditation follows.  Good Luck.

 

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